Build your reasons to succeed

The Telos Lifestyle Revolution™ System Lesson Menu

The Telos Lifestyle Revolution™ – Introduction
How can The Telos Lifestyle Revolution™ help you?
The Telos Lifestyle Revolution™ – Background
The Telos Lifestyle Revolution™ Fundamentals
Build your reasons to succeed
Reframe the reasons and excuses you give yourself not to succeed
The science of goal setting and developing robustness
Submodalities: Change habits, alter beliefs, and build motivation
POWER Questions: Daily questions that can change your life

The problem with most advice on getting motivated is there isn’t any real substance behind it.

There are a lot of fancy acronyms and hype, but not a lot of practical advice that is proven to work.

And, if reaching your goals or maintaining a beneficial habit, like being happy, was just down to being ‘motivated’ then people who succeed at one thing in life should be able to just as easily succeed at anything else they choose to pursue.

However, that’s generally not the case.

For example, there are many people who may be successful in business, but can’t lose weight when they want to, or, conversely, there are people who are extremely fit and find it easy to exercise all the time yet can’t maintain a habit that helps them to grow their business.

Luckily some great scientists, like Professor James O. Prochaska, Professor Carlo Di Clemente and Dr Piers Steele, have discovered what it takes to get us motivated to begin and maintain a habit or reach our goals in life.

The first step is to build your reasons to succeed.

Creating a list of reasons to succeed adds weight to the ‘value’ elements of the Motivation Equation and moves you through the stages of the Transtheoretical Model of Behavioural Change so that continuing to maintain a habit and progress towards your goals becomes easier and enjoyable.

So, let me ask, how much do you really want it?

How much passion do you have to reach that goal you have in mind?

Think of something you really want or a goal that you are determined to reach and before reading on, list down all the reasons you want to achieve it.

If you don’t have a pen handy or don’t want to get one, just count the list of reasons in your head.

Usually when I ask people this question, they can list maybe 5 or 6 reasons for achieving their goal and normally those reasons are quite generic.

For instance, with men who want to get fit, the reasons they list are usually:

  • So I am fit
  • So I look good
  • So women are more attracted to me
  • So I can have a 6 pack stomach
  • So I am healthier
  • So I feel better
  • So I…

And they normally falter there after 5 or 6 or start repeating the same reasons, but in different words.

And, that’s also the reason 99.99% of them fail, because they don’t have enough reasons to succeed.

This isn’t just my assumption. The research behind this is one of the most well researched areas of psychology.

The more benefits you have for starting and maintaining a habit, the more likely you are to reach your goals in life and live with health, happiness and well-being.

However, understanding the benefits logically isn’t enough; you have to connect viscerally with them.

Even if your habit is well established and you’ve been doing it for a while it’s still good practice to keep adding to your list to bolster your resolve for the future and for when life throws you a curve ball.

Take some time to write a list of benefits for starting and maintaining your chosen habit or goals or direction and think about how each benefit would affect you and the people around you. Some of them will mean more to your than others, tick those ones and move on to the next benefit.

How many reasons to succeed do you need to list?

Well, 50 would be a good number to go for.

It may seem a lot, however, when I ask people to list the reasons and excuses they give themselves for not doing something, most of them can quickly list 20 or more.

The research shows that the reasons to succeed have to far outweigh the reasons not to.

Listing 50 or more reasons to succeed isn’t so difficult when you start to really think about it.

For instance, let’s take exercise again as an example and my personal list of over 80 reasons for exercising shown below.

You’ll see that there are many different categories and reasons to succeed and most of them resonate with me deeply, therefore making getting some form of exercise often multiple times in a day (see Opportunities To Move) easy for me to accomplish. In fact, it is a pleasure rather than a chore for me to exercise.

Benefits of exercising:

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▢ Be able to play with your grandchildren
▢ Be able to carry your daughter up when you want to
▢ Be able to defend others
▢ Be able to defend yourself
▢ Be a role model for your family
▢ Be around longer for your family
▢ Be better coordinated
▢ Be happier
▢ Be more alert
▢ Be more flexible
▢ Be more productive
▢ Cause your loved ones to worry less about your health
▢ Control your appetite
▢ Decrease irregular heart rhythms
▢ Decrease pressure in your joints
▢ Decrease your risk for a fatal heart attack
▢ Decrease your risk of clogged blood vessels
▢ Enjoy life more
▢ Feel better about yourself
▢ Feel happier around other people
▢ Feel less nervous or anxious
▢ Feel like you’re taking the best possible care of yourself
▢ Feel more relaxed and at ease
▢ Fulfil your passions
▢ Gain pride from your friends
▢ Get a promotion at work or better paying job
▢ Have a healthier image
▢ Have better fitting clothes
▢ Have fewer illnesses and absences from work
▢ Have more energy
▢ Help your body use insulin
▢ Improve bowel regularity
▢ Improve circulation
▢ Improve immune system function
▢ Improve your appearance
▢ Improve your balance
▢ Improve your blood flow
▢ Improve your mood
▢ Improve your posture
▢ Improve your quality of life
▢ Improve your quality of life
▢ Improve your relationship with others
▢ Improve your self-worth
▢ Improve your sex life
▢ Improve your sleep
▢ Increase confidence
▢ Increase stamina
▢ Increase your endurance
▢ Learn new ways to cope with distress
▢ Live longer
▢ Look better
▢ Lower health care costs
▢ Lower the risk of erectile dysfunction
▢ Lower your resting heart rate
▢ Lower your risk for dementia
▢ Lower your risk for gallstones
▢ Lower your risk for hip fracture
▢ Lower your risk for lung cancer
▢ Make your emotional life richer
▢ Make yourself stronger
▢ Manage your anger better
▢ Manage your stress better
▢ May improve your breathing
▢ May lower your blood pressure
▢ May save money
▢ Prevent weight gain
▢ Promote effective problem solving
▢ Promote feelings of control
▢ Reduce and prevent lower back pain
▢ Reduce muscle tension
▢ Reduce pain
▢ Reduce risk of high blood sugar
▢ Reduce triglycerides
▢ Reduce your body fat
▢ Reduce your risk of arteriosclerosis
▢ Reduce your risk of breast cancer
▢ Reduce your risk of colon cancer
▢ Reduce your risk of diabetes
▢ Reduce your risk of endometrial cancer
▢ Reduce your risk of esophageal cancer
▢ Reduce your risk of falling
▢ Reduce your risk of heart disease
▢ Reduce your risk of kidney cancer
▢ Reduce your risk of obesity
▢ Reduce your risk of pancreatic cancer
▢ Reduce your risk of prostate cancer
▢ Reduce your risk of sleep apnea
▢ Reduce your risk of stroke
▢ Relax your mind