Take control of your feelings

“Do you want to know how to quickly and easily enjoy, or even fall in love with a habit? Learn how to connect with all the pleasant experiences related to the habit, and disconnect from all the unpleasant ones.”

Our sense of the world is created from signals received by the brain, which interprets them as sight (vision), sound (hearing), smell (olfaction), taste (gustation), and touch (tactile perception). Our experience of feelings and emotions are also electrical stimulation, and although you may not be aware of it, we describe our inner world using the same terms we use to describe our outer world.

For instance, when people get angry, they might say, “I saw red”, or when someone feels depressed they might say, “I’m feeling a bit blue”. People might view a house for sale and use the term, “it didn’t feel right”, or maybe know someone that, “gives them the creeps”.

These descriptive terms, known as submodalities are subsets of the Modalities: visual, auditory , kinesthetic, olfactory and gustatory. Dr Richard Bandler first introduced into psychology in the late 1970’s. Far from being arbitrary or unimportant, they give meaning to our experiences. They are what our unconscious mind uses to present experiences, such as emotions, thoughts and memories to our conscious mind. What’s more, you can manipulate them to your benefit at will.

With just a little bit of imagination, and a good list of submodality examples, it is easy to take a feeling or emotion and quickly alter it in your own imagination.

You can:

  • Reduce the impact of negative feelings
  • Increase the power of positive feelings
  • Change a negative feeling to a positive feeling
  • Combine multiple positive feelings into one unique ‘super’ feeling.

They are the secret to reaching the same levels of excitement you experience when you think to buy a new pair of shoes, a car, go on holiday, or attend a music festival.  You can use them to change habits, alter beliefs, build motivation, overcome locked-in patterns, like compulsions, and are a very powerful way to affect and change the way we think and feel about situations, memories, or future events. They can be use to help build the desire you need to not just want, but love to take exercise, eat healthy food, get stuff done, or make a change in your life, like become more confident or happy.

Submodalities build the Expectation we need to start and maintain the passion, desire and motivation we to keep on going even when things get tough. Alternatively, if there is a feeling of dread or fear you associate with reaching your goal, submodalities give you a tool to reduce that negative feeling and even metamorphose it into a positive feeling that you can then use as fuel to push on through it all.

Submodality Exercise

You have 2 options to choose from for your submodality practice.

Option 1) you can use the recorded audio to guide you step by step through the submodaility exercise. (you will find a link to the audio at the below)

Option 2) you can read the instructions her and acquaint yourself with the submodaility exercise before you begin your practice

The instructions describe the following:

  • How to increase the power of a positive feeling
  • How to reduce or eliminate a negative feeling
  • How to change a negative feeling to a positive feeling

NOTE: You can choose to follow the instruction to increase the power of a positive feeling and not take part in the exercise to reduce a negative feel or change a negative feeling into a positive feeling if you think it will make you feel too uncomfortable.

The exercise is simple and although you can use the audio guide to help you, the following instructions should be sufficient for you to complete it by yourself.

You can download a list of submodalities here.


Access the guided audio on Submodalities  
(IMPORTANT: only listen to this audio when you can relax. Do not listen to it whilst driving or operating machinery)
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